March 24, 2009

Lie: I Need a Husband To Be Happy

This post is sort of in response to a loyal reader's comments about My Kid's Father.

Believe it or not, this is a lie that many women, including myself, believe over the years. Really, we are believing that our needs will be met in human relationships. Which cannot possibly happen because we are sinful humans and CANNOT meet every need of each other. God created us with an ultimate need for Him. If you don't think you've believed this lie, well, have you never been disappointed by another person when they've failed your expectations? Of course, that cannot be the total basis of this argument, because people are often disappointed in God when He doesn't meet certain expectations. However, if those individuals are set on seeking God's will for their life and clinging to Scriptures, they will be able to trust that God ultimately has their best in mind, even if it didn't look like at the time. ("Don't be deceived, my dear brothers. Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows." James 1:16-17)

However, man is unable to meet all of our needs. It's just not going to happen. Our needs our far too deep for any human being to meet them fully. (Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him. Psalm 62:5)

One scripture sticks out in my mind is Jerehiah 17:5-8:
"This is what the LORD says: "Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who depends on flesh for his strength and whose heart turns away from the LORD.
He will be like a bush in the wastelands; he will not see prosperity when it comes. He will dwell in the parched places of the desert, in a salt land where no one lives.
"But blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him.
He will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit."
Release your husband or any other human relationship from your expectations of meeting your needs. Find true rest in God alone.

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